Meghan Markle & Prince Harry: A Modern Couple Facing Challenges & Traditions
Meghan and Harry are facing challenges that many modern couples face. Planning a wedding is already stressful enough; what happens when there’s the added stress of dealing with negativity from closed-minded individuals?
Unfortunately, racism and bigotry are still deeply entrenched in our society. Despite the prevalence of interracial marriages, even a couple as powerful and famous as Meghan and Harry wasn’t immune to negative and cruel reactions from the public. Also, well-publicized is the fact that some of the Markle’s family will not be invited to the ceremony, and Meghan’s father may not walk her down the aisle due to his strained relationship with the bride. Your wedding should be a happy day!
Meghan and Harry are non-conformists, and we love it! If you are keeping up with the royal news like I am, you are probably aware that this royal wedding is doing away with several time-honored royal traditions. As a couple, they’ve opted to marry at St. George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle because of the personal significance the location has to them, rather than marrying at Westminster Abbey like Prince William and Kate Middleton did in 2011. They’ve also invited 2,640 members of the public to watch their carriage procession on the grounds of Windsor Castle, including people linked to philanthropic causes that Meghan and Harry care about.
These choices move away from royal protocols and instead reflect Meghan and Harry’s personalities. Similarly, your wedding should reflect your personality as a couple. You have the freedom to pick and choose the traditions you want to keep or explore completely new ideas that make more sense to you.
Think about the people who truly support you as a couple, and make sure that they are the ones attending your wedding. If you know there are members of your family or other potential guests who may be problematic, be prepared to have a conversation with them before your wedding and try to smooth over any misgivings. However, remember that your wedding is exactly that, yours! It should be a celebration between two people who love each other, and the people who love them. Meghan and Harry are opting to keep their ceremony small (well… small for royalty, anyway) and to surround themselves with people who care about them. You are not obligated to include toxic individuals at your celebration if they are not willing to put their own negativity aside.
All I’m saying, although your family is involved in the wedding, it is still your wedding. Do what makes you two happy, and avoid the pressure from others. As a couple, what are some of the challenges you are facing or what traditions are just not for you? We would love to hear from you.
photos by: Alexi Lubomirski